The heart: The one emotion her heart refuses to forget is that of pain. Do you know what she is talking about? No, neh? Let her explain:
The pain sits just below her heart and it feels like an inferno has been lit there, salt, pepper and fuming aspects are added to it
The worst part is that she never saw it coming. She has always dated people that she genuinely had feelings for and loved, the worst part is being heartbroken by someone who you never thought would break your heart.
It is the hardest thing to get over. She has ended relationships because she felt that she could not take certain traits anymore, does that make her a bad person?
She left because she felt like a trophy girlfriend, she left because it became clear as soon as she said "I love you too" that sex is the only thing wanted by him. The hardest thing to be as a girl is truthful to a guy, because the minute you mention the no sex aspect of life where you are, they can't take it. She is yet to meet a man who will say sex is not the reason he wants to get with her. Is that what love is? Sex?
She thinks not, and for that reason she is yet to be found by a man who understands where she is coming from. While we are on the sex topic, why does it seem to her that "I love you" is the supposed key to having sex?
She cannot understand it. She once met a guy who said he would like to be in a relationship with her without sex. She was beyond shocked by hearing a guy utter such words, because half the time they don't have these words in their vocab. She was not ready for a relationship of which she told him, and guess what he told her?
He told her that she did not want to date him because he did not make sexual advances at her. Can you perhaps see the irony here?
She is sure that you are sitting there wondering why she is out here writing such right? Its simple, she is tired of being seen as a piece of meat that can be devoured once it has reiterated the three little words: I love you.
She is tired of settling for men who do not open the door for her. Men who do not know what please, thank you and may I mean. She is sick and tired of being treated like a priced possession because she is of the opposite sex. Could we perhaps have this conversation?
The saddest part about this article is that her heart never ceases to betray her by loving the opposite sex. In as much as she tries to give the best and most frustrating years of her life to herself, there is always that guy out there who will give her one look and make her feel alive. That one guy whose smile melts her heart like candle on a willing wax stand. That one dark guy whose smile ignites the power of the phoenix in her to rise. Kudos to the guy and may he know how to treat women. She prays to be blessed with boys, she will first and foremost teach them gore (that) women are first and foremost: human. She will then teach her girls that men are human beings who are not superior to them. She will teach her kids to respect others as they want to be respected. Above all they will see how Ubuntu is a philosophy of life from how she lives her life.
To all the bad boys out there who think it's okay to lie to women and date a million of them at a time: your day is coming. To all the bad girls who treat men like dirt: qaphela (watch out).
And to the rest of us who do not know if we are good, bad or both: find out and stick with the bit that makes us better.
She can't tell you how to mend a broken heart but the one thing she does for sure is cry her eyes out.
You should come and see the pillows at her house in the living room, the poor little things are as flat as pancakes. She holds them tight, squeezes hard and cries.
The other method she uses to vent is what you are reading now, she types it all out and leaves all the pain there.
Talk to your girlfriends, best friends and boyfriends. Cry your eyes out, pray if you have to. All she asks of you is that you deal with the emotion, feel the pain, smell it, touch it, and deal with it, so as to not carry baggage going forward. Take your time to heal until your heart decides to betray you again.
A relationship should be about learning each other's traits and behaviours and deciding if you want to love them unconditionally or not. She talks too much but these are solely her opinions on this love life journey
With all her love
She
The pain sits just below her heart and it feels like an inferno has been lit there, salt, pepper and fuming aspects are added to it
The worst part is that she never saw it coming. She has always dated people that she genuinely had feelings for and loved, the worst part is being heartbroken by someone who you never thought would break your heart.
It is the hardest thing to get over. She has ended relationships because she felt that she could not take certain traits anymore, does that make her a bad person?
She left because she felt like a trophy girlfriend, she left because it became clear as soon as she said "I love you too" that sex is the only thing wanted by him. The hardest thing to be as a girl is truthful to a guy, because the minute you mention the no sex aspect of life where you are, they can't take it. She is yet to meet a man who will say sex is not the reason he wants to get with her. Is that what love is? Sex?
She thinks not, and for that reason she is yet to be found by a man who understands where she is coming from. While we are on the sex topic, why does it seem to her that "I love you" is the supposed key to having sex?
She cannot understand it. She once met a guy who said he would like to be in a relationship with her without sex. She was beyond shocked by hearing a guy utter such words, because half the time they don't have these words in their vocab. She was not ready for a relationship of which she told him, and guess what he told her?
He told her that she did not want to date him because he did not make sexual advances at her. Can you perhaps see the irony here?
She is sure that you are sitting there wondering why she is out here writing such right? Its simple, she is tired of being seen as a piece of meat that can be devoured once it has reiterated the three little words: I love you.
She is tired of settling for men who do not open the door for her. Men who do not know what please, thank you and may I mean. She is sick and tired of being treated like a priced possession because she is of the opposite sex. Could we perhaps have this conversation?
The saddest part about this article is that her heart never ceases to betray her by loving the opposite sex. In as much as she tries to give the best and most frustrating years of her life to herself, there is always that guy out there who will give her one look and make her feel alive. That one guy whose smile melts her heart like candle on a willing wax stand. That one dark guy whose smile ignites the power of the phoenix in her to rise. Kudos to the guy and may he know how to treat women. She prays to be blessed with boys, she will first and foremost teach them gore (that) women are first and foremost: human. She will then teach her girls that men are human beings who are not superior to them. She will teach her kids to respect others as they want to be respected. Above all they will see how Ubuntu is a philosophy of life from how she lives her life.
To all the bad boys out there who think it's okay to lie to women and date a million of them at a time: your day is coming. To all the bad girls who treat men like dirt: qaphela (watch out).
And to the rest of us who do not know if we are good, bad or both: find out and stick with the bit that makes us better.
She can't tell you how to mend a broken heart but the one thing she does for sure is cry her eyes out.
You should come and see the pillows at her house in the living room, the poor little things are as flat as pancakes. She holds them tight, squeezes hard and cries.
The other method she uses to vent is what you are reading now, she types it all out and leaves all the pain there.
Talk to your girlfriends, best friends and boyfriends. Cry your eyes out, pray if you have to. All she asks of you is that you deal with the emotion, feel the pain, smell it, touch it, and deal with it, so as to not carry baggage going forward. Take your time to heal until your heart decides to betray you again.
A relationship should be about learning each other's traits and behaviours and deciding if you want to love them unconditionally or not. She talks too much but these are solely her opinions on this love life journey
With all her love
She
